Belarus women are truly stunning and incredibly difficult to resist. You may think that you fell in love the first time you talk to a lady from Belarus. We don’t blame you but there is a line between love and limerence that you should be aware of. If you notice that you feel limerence, not love, you shouldn’t rush with important decisions. Now, if you don’t know what limerence is, let us explain.
As defined on Wikipedia, “Limerence is a state of mind which results from a romantic attraction to another person and typically includes obsessive thoughts and fantasies and a desire to form or maintain a relationship with the object of love and have one’s feelings reciprocated.”
What exactly does that mean? – It means that your feelings are closer to obsession than love. Limerence is a prolonged infatuation, which makes you admire and be very passionate about something or someone. For example, you could think that the lady from Belarus that you met recently on a dating site is the love of your life. You will be convinced that you love her deeply and you will obsess over her. During that period, you may make some very important decisions like getting married. However, there is a high chance that what you feel is actually limerence, not love. When limerence comes to the end, you will not know what to do as you won’t truly love the woman you met. It will be like waking up from a dream but the consequences will be real!
To avoid that, you need to learn more about limerence. Let’s take a look at some of the symptoms of limerence:
If you are a Limerent (the person who experiences limerence), you will daydream about the Limerent Object (the person you desire) constantly. There will barely be a moment of your day where your LO will stay out of your mind. You will imagine doing everything with that person, even the smallest things like cooking or watching TV.
If you experience limerence with Belarus girls, you will have brutal mood swings that you won’t even know how to explain. They will mostly be related to your Limerent Object. If you two are doing well, you will be happy. Only one message will light you up. If you are not okay, however, you will have an extremely hard time to motivate yourself with something else.
The idea of having a soulmate
As a Limerent, you will be 100% sure that you and your Belarus beauty are soulmates. Even if you don’t know her too well, you will be convinced that you are meant to be together. You can even feel an intense connection with your desired person without her having the same feeling or knowing that you feel that way.
The intense feelings cause physical reactions in Limerents, such as sweating, dizziness, trembling, pain in the chest area, heart palpitations or even nausea. These reactions occur as the stimulation of adrenaline and norepinephrine.
Overthinking and overanalyzing
You will analyze everything about Belarus dating if you experience limerence. Every word your LO says will mean more to you than it actually meant to her. You will look for deeper meaning in everything she does constantly.
Jealousy and possessiveness
If what you feel is limerence, not love, you will be excessively possessive and jealous. Everything around your Belarus beautiful woman will seem like a threat to you. You will want every part of her only for yourself. It may go that far that you won’t want to see her happy doing anything else except being with you.
Fear of rejection
As a Limerent, you will have a terrible fear of being rejected by your Limerent Object. You could talk to many girls on a Belarus dating site and you won’t really mind if some of them say “no” to you. However, if your LO rejects you, you will feel depressed, disappointed, and insecure.
Limerence Can Last for Years
Limerence is not permanent but it doesn’t have to be temporary either. In fact, it can last for many years. Studies suggest that biochemical processes in the brain cause limerence. Thus, the pituitary gland releases norepinephrine, dopamine, phenylethylamine (a natural amphetamine), estrogen and testosterone as a response to cues from the hypothalamus. Those chemicals produce euphoria and normalize when vasopressin and oxytocin (attachment hormones) start reacting. That occurs typically 6 to 24 months into a relationship. The average duration of limerence is 18 months to three years. However, it could last for decades!
You would be surprised to know how many people have been obsessing over someone for years, without ever actually being together. The main characteristic of limerence is the idealization of the Limerent Object. You can “love” someone from distance for so long, without them ever knowing it. That is because you THINK you know everything about them and you love the idea of them you created. However, the truth is that you don’t. Just because you think you are similar, it doesn’t mean that your Limerent is a Belarus girl for marriage that you are imagining.
Love Vs. Limerence
It is not easy to differentiate between limerence and love, especially in the beginning of a relationship.
The main difference is that love revolves about respect, trust, connection, mutual efforts; limerence is more about seeking the affection and validation of the other person.
- Love can begin in many ways but once it happens, it is stable, encouraging and makes people feel good. – Limerence starts intensely and it is intense all along. That intensity is mostly negative so one or both people get hurt in the relationship.
- Love is full of joy, peace, and respect. There are no mixed signals, jealousy, (bad) love games and other things that bring distress. – Limerence revolves around anxiety, struggles, and worries.
- Love accepts flaws and differences. – Limerence idealizes the Limerent Object, making her/him seem perfect.
Learn all the signs on time so you can find the love of your live rather than idealizing someone. You may think of someone as your soulmate and waste an opportunity to meet Belarus brides that could actually make you happy.
Be careful and look for stability, respect and trust rather than intense struggles and toxic relationships!